Improving Our Relationships

We live in a world where everything is increasingly speeding up. Technology has developed surprisingly much in the late years. In 1946 J. Presper Eckert finished his first computer, which occupied an entire room and weighted about 50 tones. Nowadays we have the tiny laptops! The information flows with the speed of the light, and if we know what we are searching for and have the Internet at hand, we can find out about everything. We can speak with everyone at anytime and anyplace and still we don't have time to truly know each other. Lots of people get depressed because their relationships problems. We need to interact with each other. We can't enjoy life without the laughter of a good friend, without the smile of a dear one, without the helpful advises of a loving parent. It isn't any wonder that when we quarrel we begin to feel guilty, unsafe, abandoned. Here are some tips that are the basis of a healthy relationship which help improve a problematic relationship.

Sincerity
Without sincerity there can't be any connection between two people. Honesty is the ground of a true and profound relationship. People tend to believe that if they hide an unpleasant thing about them or about what they did; things are going to be fine. The truth is that we can't hide forever, and when the lie is discovered, for good reason, we lose all our credibility. Being honest with the other will lead to a strong and long term relationship.

Trust
Mostly, trust it is gained in time, when we have concluded that the other person is sincere, honest. When people are trusted for what they are, they become more comfortable, more natural in the way they interact. Being trusted increases our capabilities. A good and representative example is the example of a child who is encouraged by the teacher. Expressions like "I know you can do it"are very powerful in difficult situations and would be welcomed if they are said at the time needed. A common mistake in relationships is doubt. An efficient solution for doubt would be renouncing at the assumptions we make about the respective person and ask.

No Prejudices
From the first second we meet someone new we form a set of prejudices. It is natural to do so, but very often our judgments can be wrong because we don't have enough information about that person. The first step to verify our judgment is to be aware that we make judgments. The second is simply putting questions, being the easier way to find out the truth.

Compassion
People manage better difficulties when they know they are not alone. Feeling with the other will make the relation more profound.

Creativity
People get to know each other better by doing interesting things together. Making a trip, playing a new game, learning a new language together or playing an instrument, are effective ways to have fun together.

Humor
Humor always enlightens a relationship. Making fun of embarrassing situations helps us overcome them more easily.

Respect
Most quarrels start due to a lack of respect between people. But the key to be respected is to respect. We should offer respect to everyone, even if we consider that a specific person doesn't deserve our respect. The main reason for why we should respect each other is that we are all humans, with feelings, superior intellect and superior needs.

Managing Anger
From time to time we all feel angry, and anger makes us speak hurtful words that can cause deep wounds. There are some things that could help us manage our anger: being aware of our friend's problem makes us feel sorry for him, putting ourselves in the his/her shoes, making our best to understand why the person acted that way. This may take some time, so, the most suitable solution in an anger crisis is to keep our mouths shut for at least ten seconds, maybe then the anger will disappear.

Patience
Without patience with each other there is no such thing as good understanding, and the people feel stressed. Patience is a great way to manage anger.

Love
Love is the essential key in a relationship. Without love we cannot truly reach the other helpful keys (sincerity, respect, patience, compassion, trust and so on).

Improving Our Relationships

We live in a world where everything is increasingly speeding up. Technology has developed surprisingly much in the late years. In 1946 J. Presper Eckert finished his first computer, which occupied an entire room and weighted about 50 tones. Nowadays we have the tiny laptops! The information flows with the speed of the light, and if we know what we are searching for and have the Internet at hand, we can find out about everything. We can speak with everyone at anytime and anyplace and still we don't have time to truly know each other. Lots of people get depressed because their relationships problems. We need to interact with each other. We can't enjoy life without the laughter of a good friend, without the smile of a dear one, without the helpful advises of a loving parent. It isn't any wonder that when we quarrel we begin to feel guilty, unsafe, abandoned. Here are some tips that are the basis of a healthy relationship which help improve a problematic relationship.

Sincerity
Without sincerity there can't be any connection between two people. Honesty is the ground of a true and profound relationship. People tend to believe that if they hide an unpleasant thing about them or about what they did; things are going to be fine. The truth is that we can't hide forever, and when the lie is discovered, for good reason, we lose all our credibility. Being honest with the other will lead to a strong and long term relationship.

Trust
Mostly, trust it is gained in time, when we have concluded that the other person is sincere, honest. When people are trusted for what they are, they become more comfortable, more natural in the way they interact. Being trusted increases our capabilities. A good and representative example is the example of a child who is encouraged by the teacher. Expressions like "I know you can do it"are very powerful in difficult situations and would be welcomed if they are said at the time needed. A common mistake in relationships is doubt. An efficient solution for doubt would be renouncing at the assumptions we make about the respective person and ask.

No Prejudices
From the first second we meet someone new we form a set of prejudices. It is natural to do so, but very often our judgments can be wrong because we don't have enough information about that person. The first step to verify our judgment is to be aware that we make judgments. The second is simply putting questions, being the easier way to find out the truth.

Compassion
People manage better difficulties when they know they are not alone. Feeling with the other will make the relation more profound.

Creativity
People get to know each other better by doing interesting things together. Making a trip, playing a new game, learning a new language together or playing an instrument, are effective ways to have fun together.

Humor
Humor always enlightens a relationship. Making fun of embarrassing situations helps us overcome them more easily.

Respect
Most quarrels start due to a lack of respect between people. But the key to be respected is to respect. We should offer respect to everyone, even if we consider that a specific person doesn't deserve our respect. The main reason for why we should respect each other is that we are all humans, with feelings, superior intellect and superior needs.

Managing Anger
From time to time we all feel angry, and anger makes us speak hurtful words that can cause deep wounds. There are some things that could help us manage our anger: being aware of our friend's problem makes us feel sorry for him, putting ourselves in the his/her shoes, making our best to understand why the person acted that way. This may take some time, so, the most suitable solution in an anger crisis is to keep our mouths shut for at least ten seconds, maybe then the anger will disappear.

Patience
Without patience with each other there is no such thing as good understanding, and the people feel stressed. Patience is a great way to manage anger.

Love
Love is the essential key in a relationship. Without love we cannot truly reach the other helpful keys (sincerity, respect, patience, compassion, trust and so on).

How to Get Her Back After a Break Up

Guys going through a break up stop thinking straight for the most part and tend to take irrational actions. This is one of the major reasons behind desperate measures they take to get her back. They tend to overlook that probably this haphazard decision making was the main reason why she broke up. It may sound like common advice but reflecting on what went wrong is one of the first steps that a guy should take if he wants to win her back. Other things that would help the situation are to stop whining and asking advice from your other male friends. It is more than likely that they are as clueless as you are, or worse, they might give you wrong advice.


How to Win Her Back After a Break Up

Approach this task like an assignment and sit with a piece of paper and make two columns. In the first column list down all the things that she liked about you, and in the second column write all the things she hated about you. Invest some time in this work as it will act as the core of your plan of getting her back. You also need to remember one thing, that all girls need to feel special and if you make her feel that way she will forgive you and probably take you back.

All Apologies
They will tell you that an apology will not make it better, well accepted! But it will lay the ground work to build something better. Express your apology not only in words but let it be seen in your actions. For example if she broke up with you cause you are a flirt, then stop talking to other girls and apologize for your insensitive behavior.

Show Care
One of the major reasons for a breakup is that the girl feels neglected in the relationship. You have to go over the top to reassure her that this is not the case if you want her back in your life. Start by making simple inquiries like how she is doing, does she need anything, how was her day, etc. Talk about issues that might be troubling her, for example, ask her how she is coping with stress at work, how she is dealing with an ill family member, etc. Remember to keep your focus on her when you are showing concern.

 Project Change
It is obvious she won't come back to you if she doesn't see any change in your behavior and attitude. If you are wondering how to get her back after a break up, make sure you refer to your assignment of listing things that she liked and disliked. For example, if she thinks that you get angry for no reason, don't show your anger even if she provokes you. Show that you have had a profound personality change because of the break up and now want her back so she can experience the best of you.

Give Respect
If you want her back you need to respect her views and opinions even if you disagree with her. Allow her to discuss things that you may find trivial, if she is looking for space give it to her, no point being overbearing. Let her know through words and actions that you value her and her decisions. Treat her with respect, simple things like using a soft tone when speaking about differences will help you score points with her.

Value Others
Almost all girls are caring and value their friends, family members and even the old guy at the newspaper stand. If you want her back, show that you not only value her but also the other people in her life. Talk to about her friends and family members with respect even if you can't stand them, there is no reason to be disrespectful if you don't like them. For example if her mom is having a birthday, send her flowers and a card, this small gesture will help you score lot of points.

If you desperately want her back do not underestimate the importance of showering her with gifts, sending over a cute teddy bear with a 'I am sorry' tag is a good way to begin. Sending flowers and chocolates with hand written notes expressing your true feelings will also go a long way in mending the relationship. One last thing, be honest and genuine in your efforts, she will sense it.

How to Get Her Back After a Break Up

Guys going through a break up stop thinking straight for the most part and tend to take irrational actions. This is one of the major reasons behind desperate measures they take to get her back. They tend to overlook that probably this haphazard decision making was the main reason why she broke up. It may sound like common advice but reflecting on what went wrong is one of the first steps that a guy should take if he wants to win her back. Other things that would help the situation are to stop whining and asking advice from your other male friends. It is more than likely that they are as clueless as you are, or worse, they might give you wrong advice.


How to Win Her Back After a Break Up

Approach this task like an assignment and sit with a piece of paper and make two columns. In the first column list down all the things that she liked about you, and in the second column write all the things she hated about you. Invest some time in this work as it will act as the core of your plan of getting her back. You also need to remember one thing, that all girls need to feel special and if you make her feel that way she will forgive you and probably take you back.

All Apologies
They will tell you that an apology will not make it better, well accepted! But it will lay the ground work to build something better. Express your apology not only in words but let it be seen in your actions. For example if she broke up with you cause you are a flirt, then stop talking to other girls and apologize for your insensitive behavior.

Show Care
One of the major reasons for a breakup is that the girl feels neglected in the relationship. You have to go over the top to reassure her that this is not the case if you want her back in your life. Start by making simple inquiries like how she is doing, does she need anything, how was her day, etc. Talk about issues that might be troubling her, for example, ask her how she is coping with stress at work, how she is dealing with an ill family member, etc. Remember to keep your focus on her when you are showing concern.

 Project Change
It is obvious she won't come back to you if she doesn't see any change in your behavior and attitude. If you are wondering how to get her back after a break up, make sure you refer to your assignment of listing things that she liked and disliked. For example, if she thinks that you get angry for no reason, don't show your anger even if she provokes you. Show that you have had a profound personality change because of the break up and now want her back so she can experience the best of you.

Give Respect
If you want her back you need to respect her views and opinions even if you disagree with her. Allow her to discuss things that you may find trivial, if she is looking for space give it to her, no point being overbearing. Let her know through words and actions that you value her and her decisions. Treat her with respect, simple things like using a soft tone when speaking about differences will help you score points with her.

Value Others
Almost all girls are caring and value their friends, family members and even the old guy at the newspaper stand. If you want her back, show that you not only value her but also the other people in her life. Talk to about her friends and family members with respect even if you can't stand them, there is no reason to be disrespectful if you don't like them. For example if her mom is having a birthday, send her flowers and a card, this small gesture will help you score lot of points.

If you desperately want her back do not underestimate the importance of showering her with gifts, sending over a cute teddy bear with a 'I am sorry' tag is a good way to begin. Sending flowers and chocolates with hand written notes expressing your true feelings will also go a long way in mending the relationship. One last thing, be honest and genuine in your efforts, she will sense it.